Friday, October 31, 2025

Halloween in photos

 

It was a cool but not freezing night, with a waxing moon peeking through the clouds.  Felt very Halloween!

Ember started the evening as a quiet girl in her crate but as the activity began she got restless and I let her out and put her in her "walking clothes".

Not a puppy to sleep through the whole thing in her crate, Ember was a good girl in leash and harness, content to let mom know when trick or treaters arrived.  She knew before I did.  She knew before a doorbell would ring.

Naturally, I overbought the candy.  Should have started out the evening having the kids just "grab a big handful" (as I did with the final group).  I let them take 3 to start with and didn't complain if they couldn't count and got five or six.

Now, of course, I have plenty of leftovers!

One family as it was starting to get dark.  Total trick or treaters:  9.  This matches last year's count.








Across town, "the kids" had about a hundred, maybe a little more, but they are in a section of town with younger families.  Ours is starting to skew a little younger now.

I could not resist... son's costume:  Clark Kent changing into Superman.

Hope everyone had a good Halloween!

Thanksgiving Season Day 19 Gratitude

Friday, October 31, 2025

Today I am thankful for cousins and nieces and nephews a generation or more younger than I am.  I am delighted that they are still OK being Facebook friends with me, and when they introduce me to the current "things" in their lives.


For example, a young cousin of mine mentioned her fondness for pumpkin chai from my favorite coffee place.  I had just discovered pumpkin lattes this year, and had no idea there was such a thing as a pumpkin spiced chai!  I've been drinking them as my "special" drink after dog walks ever since.  A niece taught me how "chai" was pronounced, a few years back, but it was some time before I actually tried it!

It was another young cousin who invited me to run the Gasparilla half marathon more than a decade ago, that kept me training for an extra year.

Minor things, to be sure, but it's the minor things that bring much joy into life, proving that even seven decades into life, one can discover new joys.

Thursday, October 30, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 18 Gratitude

 Thursday, October 30, 2025

Today I am thankful for a working furnace and warm blankets.  We're having our first hard freeze of the season this week.  It's nice to be able to get up to warmth.

I am thankful for a supply of warm clothing from sweats to coats and hats and gloves.  I am thankful that Ember now lets me don these without going nuts (remember her puppy land shark days when if I changed clothing, she would attack the new item or the limbs it covered?)

Speaking of warmth, I am thankful for my companion animals who warm my lap when it suits them.



Wednesday, October 29, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 17 Gratitude

 

Wednesday October 29, 2025

Today I am grateful for public libraries.  Reliable, hopefully always there when we need them.

On Tuesday, while the electricians had the power cut off at my house, I discovered that the street that had been under construction between home and my nearest branch library had recently reopened.  I drove down it and did something I'd been meaning to do for quite some time:  I got my library card renewed.

It expired during the pandemic, you see, and I never got around to showing up at the library and taking care of that little chore!

I used to so enjoy wandering through the fiction stacks, scanning the titles to see if anything jumped out at me.  That morning, I found familiar authors, including this one, who wrote mysteries starring an ex-steeplechase jockey turned private detective.

I know that the author passed away in 2010, but I picked one of his titles off the shelf.  It looked only vaguely familiar, and if I've read it before it has escaped my memory banks.  It seems at this point (48 pages in) as though I am familiar with the main character, but in a slightly different time frame.  I sank right into it, checked it out, had coffee with it, and brought it home.

Libraries are magical places.  A refuge for so many who need a quiet, free place.  May they grace our communities for a long time to come.

Tuesday, October 28, 2025

Thanksgiving season day 16 gratitude

 

Tuesday, October 28, 2025

Today I am thankful for goofy memes and t-shirts that re-awaken the math nerd in me and tie it to social fads.  It keeps me in touch with the younger generation when I have to go "look it up" and discover that the square of 67 is 4489.  Foster grand kid noted that the license plate number of his best friend's mom started with 6-7.  

It's one of those funny things.  I think I have the rap origin of it figured out, thanks to a YouTube video that I trust just a shade more than the rest... and I'm grateful that I'm interested and curious enough to go looking.

They can call me "OK, Boomer" all they want... I'll own it!

Monday, October 27, 2025

Thanksgiving season Day 15 (Starting Week 3, October 27 - Nov 2nd, 2025)

 

Monday, October 27, 2025

Today I am thankful for the simple joys of the comfort foods of youth.  Depicted, a grilled cheese sandwich, but there are many, many foods that fit this category.  Grilled cheese was something mom used to make, and pair with tomato soup.  Warm and filling for a kiddo's chilly weather hunger.

I know I already put out a gratitude post about full bellies and clean water and about my upbringing... this one is sort of a specific of the full bellies one, combined with memories of my mom serving it up at lunchtime.  If you can believe it, when I was in grade school, we lived close enough to come home for lunch, and we did, thus getting a hot meal.

Nowadays, when the weather starts to turn, I start to make this for myself.

Sunday, October 26, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 14

 

Sunday, October 26, 2025

Today I am thankful for my amazing daughter in law.  I thank God for putting her in my son's life, and I thank my son for sharing her with me.  

But I also thank her for carrying so much of the social weight of now parenting, keeping all the parts and pieces of people together.  I know this is not easy!  And I know that her heart tears with the ups and downs of the whole family, and especially of that fully costumed foster kiddo in the photo.  Since nobody can see his face, I can share a group photo from mini golf Saturday night.  A kind-hearted woman is blessing to all and deserving of all we can do to help support her in her mission!

She's not only kind-hearted.  She's capable and resilient and to repeat amazing.

May all be blessed in having this kind of person in your lives.  And if you do, remember to tell them how much you appreciate it!

Saturday, October 25, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 13 Gratitude

 Saturday, October 25, 2025

Today I am thankful for my cookbook.  It was a wedding gift, back in 1981.  I have gone to look at the "updated" versions of the same cookbook (Better Homes and Gardens), only to see such descriptions as "900 new recipes" based on today's eating habits.

Sigh.  This old one gives me the directions I first learned, with mom and grandma available to assess my progress.

It was to this book I went when I wanted to make pudding from scratch.  It is to this book I return when looking for the proportions and spicing for holiday standards.

It is not the ONLY source of favorite recipes, but it is the foundation, and I'm glad that I have it to rely on.

Friday, October 24, 2025

We interrupt the gratitude parade for the weekly news

 

Here I am, in the traditional autumn season phase of "trying to kick-start the economy single-handed".  

Last week, when I expressed gratitude for the service people that come and keep my house running, I did not mention the new electrical panel that the fellow who came out that day recommended.  $$$$!  The work is now scheduled for Tuesday the 28th of this month.

This week, on Wednesday morning it was the plumber's turn, and he fixed a slow drain and replaced a shower head. $$.  

Wednesday afternoon it was the garage door opener guy, who replaced my keypad and lubricated the tracks of both doors, and showed me what I need to do when the "off" side door starts acting up.  It has to do with level and alignment of a couple of sensors and cleaning off their lenses. $$$.

I also scheduled replacement of the back shocks on my 2012 vehicle, probably worn out from schlepping my triathlon gear all over God's green acres for the years I've had it.  An oil change and a running light replacement will likely make the November 6th expenditure just into the $$$$ range.

Then I booked Ember's next grooming for Veteran's Day. $$.

It adds up.  The workman is worthy of his hire, says the Bible, and believe me, when it comes to living as an old-er lady, I'm grateful I'm able to pay them their hire.

On Thursday, I indulged in cooking.  I made vanilla pudding from scratch.  I used to do this back in the days when my son was small.  It does take a long time, mind you, but it's such a classic comfort food.  Haven't done this in years.  I found myself missing Ember, who was in day care for the third day in a row, due to all the human stuff going on.  Next week she'll be in day care three days as well.

Life goes on, and it's good.  Keep on breathing, and keep on Sparking, my friends!


Thanksgiving Season Day 12 Gratitude

 Friday October 24, 2025


Today I am thankful for the magic of garbage day.  One day a week, the big trucks stop and the workers haul off whatever I've put to the curb (within reason, and even outside of some level of reason if one calls first).  This is hard labor, done in all weather.  It's honorable work, and most of the workers smile at Ember if we're out walking when they come by.  Ember, for her part, loves workmen of all sorts, and wags her tail.  I have to think she's thankful for them, too.

Thursday, October 23, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 11 Gratitude

 Thursday, October 23, 2025


Today I am thankful for (don't laugh) my social anxiety!  For all the frailties I exhibit that scream "human"!

Would you believe I second guess nearly everything I write and everything I say, for concern that someone might be hurt or offended by it?  My favorite beatitude, growing up in Sunday school, was "Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God." (KJV, Matt. 5:9)

I so wanted (still do) everything to be peaceful!  Hurting souls are not at peace, they are in need of comfort.  And we live in a very divided time.

My social anxiety and desire for everyone to be "happy"/"peaceful" has led me to listen to and have a heart for those who hold opinions and positions with which I may not agree.  I'm one of those "both sides" people that are so bitterly objected to by those who just don't get how anyone might disagree with them.  The first thought that pops into my head when presented with something is whether there is another way to look at it, that may not lead to the same conclusion.  Is there a kinder motive possible?  Can I give the speaker the benefit of the doubt?

This sometimes gets me into trouble with those who hold their own point of view strongly and may want something more from me than I can in conscience give.  It gets me into trouble when two persons with two opposing views both think I agree with them and "put me on the spot" to give an opinion or judgement and I'm like Tevye in Fiddler on the Roof... "he is also right".  

Given that social anxiety is NOT a comfortable thing to live with, it still blesses me by helping me feel compassion for others.


Wednesday, October 22, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 10 Gratitude

 

Wednesday, October 22, 2025

Today I am thankful for people who keep me "in the loop" about shared "invisible friends".  You know, those friends of friends or online friends that have become so important to so many of us.

I have been fortunate to have met in person several of my online friends.  I have not been able to meet in person many people who became important to me through their service, help, and friendship to my son, for example.

Online friends are easy to lose track of, especially if you're relying on social media posts and comments for awareness of their presence and well-being.  I'm thankful for those who "check in" now and again with a post.

In the past week, I have learned through some of these "keep others in the loop" folks of the passing of a man dear to my son, and of an online friend being hospitalized.  Is this passing along of tidbits of the lives of others "gossip"?  Perhaps.  But the word "gossip" has a negative association.  I suppose you could say "I'm thankful for kind gossip", not the kind that rejoices in the troubles of others... the kind that alerts one to be kinder, or to reach out and help, or to direct prayers (those of you who pray, you know this one).

I have learned through check-in posts of the progress in life of a beloved but not often contacted niece, and another online friend

As we sink into the virtual world, let us not completely withdraw from the one we breathe in.

Tuesday, October 21, 2025

Thanksgiving Season - Week 2 October 20 - 26

 Tuesday, October 21, 2025 (Day 9)

I already wrote Monday's before I posted the "week" title, so starting the week label with the second day of the week.

Today I am thankful for the health of my body.  At a month shy of 73 trips 'round the sun, it still serves me pretty well.  I am thankful for the concept and recognition of the phrase "for your age".  Priorities change over time, as we mature.

I am thankful for the medical technology of cataract surgery, and that this has enabled me to still see, and drive, do my own shopping, and in general live independently.  Given that while I no longer run half marathons or participate in triathlon, I am grateful my body let me do it as recently as seven years ago.  


Diamond, 1996 - 2013

The fact that my body serves me well "for my age" gave me the courage to adopt a puppy in 2024.  

The fact that my body does well "for my age" gives me the freedom to get to know my foster grand child.

Ember, 2024 - present day




Today I am thankful that I can keep up with my current dog and walk her usual route of about a mile and a quarter.  Twenty years ago, the dog I walked had a usual route of 2.6 miles.  

Feeling blessed, indeed.

Monday, October 20, 2025

Thanksgiving season day 8

Monday October 20, 2025

Of late, Ember is apparently thankful for finding an old/newly accessible place to hide (or to chase a bug).  That little nose poking out under the slipcover skirt makes me smile, as long as I know she's not chewing on the couch from the bottom up!

Today I am thankful for Ember's growth in self-control over the past year.  And I'm thankful for the lessons that have come to me as a result.

 

The tail end.

Sunday, October 19, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 7

 Sunday October 19, 2025

Today I am thankful for my upbringing.  My thoughts turn this way because it's close to Yahrzeit for my dad.  He shaped a lot of my thinking and attitudes.

I am thankful for instructions.  Wherever I can find them:  on paper, on line, or stuck to the appliances they teach one about.  

Recent example:  my automatic sprinkler controls.  The electrician that was here on Thursday tripped the power off, which reset all the clocks in the house, including the one that drives the sprinklers.

It took me three days before I figured out everything that was going on with those sprinklers.  I got it all sorted in the end.  I am glad that these instructions are on the door of the control box, and they are written in words, not those international symbols that so confuse me!

I am thankful for helps that enable me to figure stuff out on my own!  I


Saturday, October 18, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 6

 Saturday, October 18, 2025

I don't care if you are a Republican, a Democrat, an independent or even a non-voter... this country was founded on the principle of having No Kings!

You cannot characterize people who peacefully protest policies as all being terrorists or hating your country.  Many may be conservatives, old-fashioned small government conservatives, who believe in the institutions of government, separation of powers, and the sanctity of the voting booth.  Many of us would not be getting "in your face" except for the slurs that have been directed!

Today I am thankful that it takes more than one person's will to remove my right to political speech in favor of democracy!  And if someone has to come bail me out, well, as the line from the movie/play Mame said, "I lived!"

Addendum:

It was a peaceful and joyous adventure, my first attendance as a rally participant.  

With my daughter in law on the Capitol lawn.  The crowd looks sparse in this photo but it was packed from where we were standing about 10 feet to the street.  I had to park about 8 blocks away.  

Whatever your news may be telling you, even in "deep red" states, Americans take offense at being called terrorists just because we happen to disagree with the current administration!  Nobody was behaving like a terrorist today.

Add to this that I commend the local police force.  No huge presence (I don't think I saw even one uniformed officer, though there were several veterans among the protestors).  Crowd control is understood in Husker Nation.  And it can be done in a de-escalating and respectful manner.



Friday, October 17, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 5 Gratitude

 Friday October 17, 2025

Today I am thankful for naps.  I find myself taking more of them as I grow "older".  Naps with a cat or a dog (in my case a dog's head) on your lap are the best.  Doesn't have to be long, just checking out and being at peace for a few minutes is enough.

Taking a nap is a little like doing a "restart" of the computer!

Thursday, October 16, 2025

Thanksgiving Season Day 4 Gratitude

 Thursday, October 16th, 2025

Today I am thankful for the technical tradespeople who service my home.  I note they have gone to a "subscription" model which I'm sure helps their business budget better, but it gives such peace of mind to know I have plumbing, heating, electrical services available, and that they even take care of calling me up to schedule annual or semi-annual inspections to prevent the buildup of problems.

I'm also grateful for the infrastructure that brings utilities into my home.  Maintenance of the systems only works if there's a larger system it plugs in to!

Wednesday, October 15, 2025

Thanksgiving season Day 3

 Wednesday, October 15, 2025

Today I am thankful for routine.  The workday routine that I lived for decades, and the retirement routines that I have established with my furry companions.  Routine is something to hang on to during unsettled times.  For me, routines have regularly changed and adapted with the changes to school, jobs, homes (apartment or house), and household composition as marriage, births, and yes, even passings occurred.

Routines and rituals keep us grounded.  And sometimes they involve "looking up", figuratively or literally.  

Getting the pup outside in the dark of pre-dawn, and for her last call after sunset gives me the chance to do a little star or moon gazing as the dark months of the year are creeping upon us here.

The moon and the stars, the wonders of the heavens bring a Psalm to mind:  "What is man, that Thou art mindful of him?"  I am grateful to be able to see these wonders and for the sense of awe that they inspire.



Tuesday, October 14, 2025

Thanksgiving season Day 2

 

Tuesday, October 14th, 2025:

Today we (Ember, The Prisoner and I) are thankful for full bellies and clean water.  Talk about the basics!  

These deserve visible gratitude not just daily, but with every meal.  

Point to ponder:  does God expect us to offer up a form of polite obeisance?  Saying a grace when sitting down to eat, blessing the meal and the work that went into it is a practice that I need to renew, even when eating alone.  


A polite sit by the pup is her form of saying grace, methinks!  It's something we have practiced to the point of "it's automatic".  I stand holding her dish.  I give her release word from her waiting spot.  She approaches and sits, looking up at me with expectant eyes.  I commend her for her polite sit, then place her "chow" in front of her.

The Prisoner shows signs of being agnostic or atheist... he crowds right in as I fill his dish.  And he hunts, still.


Monday, October 13, 2025

Thanksgiving time - week 1, Monday October 13 - Sunday October 19th

 For several years (more than a decade) I've been involved with the "Thanksgiving to Thanksgiving" gratitude exercise.  While most of us strive to have a specific thought to gratitude every day of the year, this specific practice was "viral" when my brother, some of my sisters and I took it up.  At the time it was a "month of November" exercise, and it involved posting something, large or small (at least one thing) each day on social media.  Back then, it was Facebook.  I think it has migrated to various platforms over the years.

I changed the date range in 2010, to span the six weeks or so from when Canada Celebrates Thanksgiving Day, which this year is Monday October 13th, to the US Thanksgiving Day, which this year is Thursday November 27th.  I did this because there were some rough "memorial" dates for me in early November, and I needed the warmup days before I got to the rough patches.  It's not as hard anymore, as the magic of time passing has smoothed out some of the edges.  Those rough anniversaries still sit there, but since I've been around the block a few times with them, finding the silver linings attached is now a more mellow experience.

So let's start... I invite all to join in, however they care to do so... in comments, blogs of your own, off on another social media space, or even on paper.  Let's put some gratitude in our hearts, and work at healing our world!

Day 1:  Grateful for green grass (STILL!  In October) and pets at peace with one another.

So peaceful on the back deck.  Photo from Sunday October 12th.


Friday, October 10, 2025

Rambling thoughts

Sunday, October 5th, on the deck, watching the world go by.  We had a good "normal" mommy and me morning, with a nice neighborhood leash walk.  We got some extra car ride time to take the recycles to the drop off before going through the coffee drive-through and get her special "bone" (just a Milk Bone, no whipped cream, still trying to get my pup down to the weight the vet has specified).

Putting your dog who is a total chowhound on a diet is not an easy task.  It takes a lot of discipline on the part of the human.

Since I use treats to reward good behavior on walks as well as in training, I have done some adjusting over the months to lesser caloric treats.  One pouch in my bag just has her regular kibble.  Another has a mix of her treats, with only a very few of the "best" ones, the freeze-dried chicken liver.

She also gets a little taste (lickings) of my own 1% milkfat cottage cheese and 2% plain Greek yogurt, and to lick the plate when I've had something "safe" for dogs, like eggs.

Sunday evening:  rain with thunder rumbles overhead and varying intensity of light to heavy rain.  Glad we got some outside yard play in before the skies opened up.

Monday morning: I woke to the sound of rain on the roof around 3:45 and suddenly remembered the automatic sprinklers!  I crept down the stairs with my phone flashlight to turn them off for the day as we're supposed to be getting rain almost all day long, and I don't have those "rain detectors" to prevent them clicking on at 4 a.m. Mondays.  Trying to go back to bed after that was a bit of a joke, so I gave up and got up, thus writing this little snippet.

Observations on a rainy morning:

  • It's not rumbling thunder
  • It's not windy
  • And the rain is falling softly, with pauses now and again.

Observations of puppy's increasing maturity:

  • She did not attack my rain jacket.  (She did grab my hat to play "keep away" with it.  She did give it back.  I had not taken the risk of wearing gloves, one of the worst triggers she had as a young pup.)
  • She did not need to be coaxed out to do her business with treats, but came willingly, did her thing and went back in at a sedate pace.
  • She was willing to go play fetch off the deck, even though it was raining softly.
  • She behaved well on a shortened "around the block" walk.  We got wet, but we did not freeze.  The puppy did not freak out over puddles or anything.
  • She hopped into the car on the "load up" cue.  She subsequently got her drive thru treat!

However, this "golden" situation did not last the whole day.  We went out for a second leash walk in the afternoon, and a couple of lovely ladies stopped to pet her.  We got plenty wet as shortly after that bonus, it started misting, then as we got further along, it turned into a genuine, if gentle rain.  

We got a delivery that included a "Giggle ball", that makes noises as it rolls or changes angle.  It startled me when I lifted it out of the box, and I think I kind of jumped.  Ember was still in her crate from a puppy nap at that point.  When she came out, I gave her this interactive noisy toy to play with.

The noises it makes almost sound like words or a baby's or animal's cry.  It makes a different sound in opposite directions (i.e. if you have a north pole and a south pole on the globe and you turn it upside down, you get one sound.  If you turn it back upright, you get a different sound).  Clearly it has two axes, making for four distinct sounds, and if you slowly roll it with a spin, it's quite interesting what it sounds like.

Anyway, between and among ALL these stimuli, Ember got overexcited about an hour before supper time and started into her frenzy kind of "go under the couch and gnaw at its underpinnings", "reach for the calendar", "put paws on the counter", and "grab mommy's arm when she goes to refill the water bowl".  I tried to calm her down, with mostly success, but found I had to put first myself outside to calm ME down, then come back in and put Ember outside so I could clean up the spilled water dish, wash myself (3 Band-Aids), and put away the over-stimulating toys.  When she came back in, she seemed ready to be civilized.  I fed her about half an hour early.  Once fed, I gave her a chew stick, and she completed her self-regulation cycle and got her couch privileges back to nap there while Mom watched Jeopardy.

She went into her crate before Jeopardy ended for her puppy nap prior to "last call". 

Tuesday 10/7:  As if to make up for the frenzy of Monday's rainy day, Ember got a nice compliment from her daycare person on Tuesday.  Seems they have a five-month-old golden retriever who was a bit rambunctious for the other pups his age, and they started putting him in Ember's play group.  When the young man brought Ember out to me Tuesday afternoon, he asked if I'd heard about her new "best friend".  I shook my head "no" and as we were packing her into the car, he showed me the video of her playing with Bailey, the golden puppy.  Says the day care fella, "She is so sweet with him."  Guess Carl and Barnaby taught her well how to be an adult dog around a puppy!  I wish I had remembered to ask him to send me the video!

Wednesday 10/8:  Brrrr!  I'm glad I switched from A/C to Heat mode because with all the extra warm days, I'm really not ready to wake up to 43F.  The full harvest Super Moon was putting on a show in the western sky as it was lightening toward dawn.

Despite the significant cooling, I put on my jacket and hat, and even gloves during the walk.  Ember did not steal any of them, nor did she grab at my jacket.  She did try to put her nose in the pocket (where I had tucked the glove while fishing a treat out of the training bag).  But it was a good walk.  Some detours to follow her nose, tracking who knows what, but she was pretty obedient about getting mommy back onto the sidewalk.

We went through the drive-thru for mommy's "special coffee" and her dog biscuit as a reward.

New strategy with the giggle ball.  I just left it in the basement rec room and I did not try to "help" her play with it.  She found it at one point in the mid-day and looked to me for guidance.  I told her it was OK to play with it, it's her toy.  She picked it up and brought it upstairs and investigated it.  

Thursday 10/9:  I felt at loose ends.  Puppy was off at day care, thank goodness, but I was bushed.  Paid bills.  Got a few groceries, refilled a prescription.

Changed batteries in the digital scale and in the smoke detector in the garage.  Yes, I climbed a ladder... at my age... inside a garage.  And lived to tell the tale.

When Ember came home and had her supper, she went into her crate in time for me to go to the family gather for my DIL's mom's birthday.  

Traffic and road construction nightmare.  I was about halfway to the agreed upon venue when I got a message from DIL.  The place we intended to go was closed for a private event.  They were formulating a change in plans.  I pulled into a parking lot and waited for the decision, then drove to the alternate place.  

It was a steakhouse that I had not been to in probably 40 years!  They are famous for their prime rib.  They are also famous for their French onion soup.  It was marvelous!  But I don't have the capacity for even the six-ounce portion of the prime rib, so there's a leftover box in my 'fridge for Friday.  It was Donna's birthday celebration but both of us "grannies" got a gift... our own copies of "Our first year with" FGC... all the photos and little snippets... from adventures with this rapidly growing youngster.  Favorite foods, favorite color, photos with pets and with people, photos with his siblings and auntie.  So much bonding over the course of that "first year", September through September!

I stayed up too late, flipping through the pages of the book, remembering for myself, and savoring the progress.

Speaking of Friday, I slept in a bit.  Didn't wake until about 5:50 a.m.  I had to get up, because the garbage bin needed to be trundled to the curb, something I didn't do Thursday night.  Ember and I had our normal morning routine.  We made it around our neighborhood walk, and through the coffee drive-thru before her first puppy nap.

That wraps the week in Emberville.  Life is goodKeep on Sparking!

Sunday, October 5, 2025

Last day of September and the start of October.

 

Last call moon through the tree branches, taken from the deck.  It was beautiful, but the camera doesn't always capture the essence.

I have been truly savoring these evening deck times with Ember.  She curls up on one deck chair while I sit in the other.  And we just breathe and watch the neighborhood pass by.



Next morning there was a gorgeous sunrise.  While driving Ember to daycare Tuesday morning, I saw a man out walking, stop to take out his phone and photograph the sky.  I had taken a shot pointing East from the deck maybe 10 or 15 minutes earlier, but I didn't get the full flame of the rising sun in my little photo.

I will note that it does not feel like October.  We got over 90F Friday afternoon.

Mid-week was routine stuff.  Ember had daycare on Thursday.  I had a semi-annual meeting with my financial guy to review status that day, too.

Friday was a big day for the across town family.  Court date for bench trial for termination of parental rights of the biological parents of my foster grandson.  Both my son and his wife were subpoenaed to testify, as the current foster parents of one of the three siblings in the case.  Due to being witnesses, they were then sequestered during most of what went on.  Up until that decision was made they were able to observe some of the action on motions, etc.  Biological mom was a no-show, so she will lose her parental rights, with no chance to appeal.  Biological dad chose to contest the action, so that's what this is really all about.

Bio dad's lawyer was 15 minutes late to court, which I'm sure did not endear him to the judge (bench trial, no jury, judge is sole decider).  He got a bit of a lecture over the issue.  He is also at risk of a contempt of court ruling related to failure to provide discovery.  Anyway, my DIL's mom was able to stay in the courtroom as a spectator, during testimony of others.  But it was a long, long day.  The GAL (guardian ad litem, represents the minor children) had anticipated that my son would be called either right before or immediately following the lunch break.

This turned out not to be the case.  Only one of them needs to take the stand, but the testimony of others was prolonged, and it turned out that he didn't get called on Friday at all.  Two more court dates have been scheduled, for November 25 (two days before Thanksgiving), and December 2nd (a week later).  Agonizingly long process, this.  But hopefully it means that all the t's will be crossed and the i's dotted and a good decision reached.  The silver lining?  Nothing changed for FGC until the next court date, at the earliest.  Seven more weeks of a stable life with my son, DIL, the therapist and medical providers he's used to, and his same school and rec center adults.  There's a lot to be said for a stable home life to help a kid over prior trauma!


My own task for Friday was to take Ember over for a mid-day play date with Carl.  Gave me something to focus on and made both dogs very happy!

Meanwhile, the last flag football game, and the last soccer game wrapped up for FGC on Thursday and Saturday, respectively.  Next sport in the hopper is Basketball.  Both FGC and his best buddy have requested one another to be on the same team.  Fingers crossed.  These two boys are just such great companions.  They swap visits at one another's houses in between practices and games, so it really is another part of the whole stability picture for this boy!

That's about it from Emberville this week.  Coming up in the next week is a delayed birthday get-together for DIL's mom.

Keeping reactions to the bigger picture of "the news" which can be quite unsettling out of this blog, for now.  I fall down the rabbit holes of YouTube posts, but don't really completely trust either those OR the mainstream media to be giving us the whole picture.  If the pandemic taught me anything it was that even those outlets that you THINK are giving out facts, and that tend to confirm your own opinions, spin the facts to suit their own narrative.  

LIFE itself is by definition a GOOD THINGSpark on and preserve yours.  Be kind.  That helps others to persevere through their own struggles.  Matters not the opinions they hold, all humans are worthy of respect and dignity!

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